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Handling Friends & Family

As you begin your homeschooling journey, your family and friends can be a tremendous support to you. Sometimes, unfortunately, they aren't much help, and can be highly critical of your choice to homeschool your child.

What to Do (or Not Do) when Confronting Arguments

  1. Don't argue.

    Most likely, the arguments coming at you aren't based on rational analysis and research, and the folks making them aren't likely to change their minds because of your reasoned arguments.

  2. Say "Thank you for sharing your concerns with me. I'll consider them carefully."

    This is my personal favorite. There's nowhere for the conversation to go after this comment. Only an extremely rude person, or someone who is overly enmeshed with you would continue after this statement.

  3. Say "Dan (or whatever your partner's name is) and I have carefully considered this, and we feel it's the best choice for our family."

  4. Say, "Hmmmm," while pursing your lips and nodding gravely.

  5. If none of the above work, just discontinue the conversation...."I'd prefer to talk about this another time," should work well for that.

It basically comes down to establishing good boundaries...a challenge many people face whether they are homeschooling or not.

Common Concerns About Homeschooling
Discussion of common concerns parents have about homeschooling.

Homeschooling Pros & Cons
A discussion of the advantages and disadvantages of homeschooling a deaf or hard of hearing child.

Legal Issues
Special legal issues facing parents homeschooling children with disabilities.

Even though fathers, grandparents, siblings, memories of ancestors are important agents of socialization, our society focuses on the attributes and characteristics of mothers and teachers and gives them the ultimate responsibility for the child’s life chances. - Sara Lawrence Lightfoot

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